There has been a lot of blog posts getting around the blogosphere
about bullying..
So you guessed it...
i thought i would add my little 2cents worth..
The reason i thought i would throw in my 2 cents worth
is because, we experienced some
Bullying over the weekend.
Mr 10 invited his friend (Mr J) over for some DSI playtime.
Mr J's mother and myself only just started letting the boys walk to each others house by them selves.
(To get from our house to Mr J's house the boys walk
around the corner from our house across a main road through a sports oval, behind some buildings up a street which runs along the side of the public school and his house is on the corner of that street)
Anyways,
the day was coming to an end,
so the boys said there goodbyes.
Mr J with his DSI in hand started to walk home
He got just around the corner from our house and 2 bigger kids (between 12 and 14) started following him home.
Such a nice kid, didn't think anything of it.
The bigger kids followed quietly,
that was untill he got behind the buildings,
where no one could see..
They ran up to him and started shoving him, calling him names
and taking his dsi and all his games.
They asked him "what he was going to do about it", then told him to tell his mother "if they wanted the dsi back she would have to buy it back from him".
Mr J didn't know what to do, so he just ran as fast as he could
the rest of the way home!
His mother did call the police!
I am wanting your thoughts on who you think is to blame for children bullying others?
The parents or the child!
10 comments:
Fantastic post, and I am disgusted that your son's DSI was stolen & hope he got it back!
I was a bully [name calling, still bad, but I never stole from anyone] when I was in my teens, but it's my fault. My actions were my doing, not my Mum or Dad's. In fact they were ashamed of me when they learned I was being awful to a girl at school.
My son was hit today by his little friend at PlayGroup and retaliated by hitting back. I don't believe it's my fault or the other boy's Mum's fault. It's just kids being cruel kids.
We have a bully (the daughter of a close friend) who visits us (less and less as my Husband exerts himself).
In her case I blame neglect. She is neglected at home, she is insecure about everything (I blame a total lack of routine and a disgusting house - think hoarders) and takes it out on anyone vulnerable, in this case the younger kids.
Her parents think she is an angel and know that the school just doesn't understand her...
This is a tough question. I think both. Really. If the parents are made aware of their child's behaviour and that behaviour continues then I think that the blame is on them.
That's more like assault and robbery to me! Little pigs.
I blame the parents. I do. I can't help it. I know that a lot of parents don't know about the bullying, and I know the influence of the peer group is strong, but parents have job to do and the parents of bullies just aren't doing it! They need to be more in touch with what their child is up to. I am tired of people blaming the peer group. I am not scared of a bunch of X year olds and I trust that other parents aren't either. Stand up to your child and stand up to their bloody friends, otherwise you're just as much a victim of bullying as the child is!
That's how I see it. x
Such a loaded question. Sometimes the parents, sometimes the kids. I think it's different in every case. What's the same in every case though is that someone is hurt - either physically or emotionally, and it's just bullshit.
There has been a lot of adult cyberbullying going on the last few weeks and I wonder what example we are setting for our children.
I think it's a little bit of both. Parents have the responsibility to teach and discourage bullying. But at the end of the day, it is the child's choice.
As a mother of a now adult son that bullied all through his school life - yep 12 years of it, I am saddened for this little guy. Parents need to teach their children right from wrong, I doubt the parents of bullies do that. I also wonder whether some kids bully because they are bullied at home by older siblings or they see the behaviour at home.
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Horrified for you, truly what a horrible experience. Sure, buy it back from the boys, get their full names & addresses, send the police to collect it, what little buggers.
I think there is a whole lot of children being dragged up these days, their parents don't have a clue where they are or what they are doing, most probably, they wouldn't care if their child was bullying other children so long as they are out of their hair. My eldest is in high school but i'm still reluctant to let her walk around our area, if i did, she'd have a whopping German Shepherd with her, try & bully that child!!
Such a horrible lesson & exeperience, wishing you well & a big dose of "that's not how we roll in this family". Oh, i couldn't resist but to lure those bullies out & nab them. Good luck, love Posie
Sounds like a couple of boys need work. I don't know if you can say parents or kids - the kids are the ones making the choice to steal. I agree with Maxabella. This is beyond bullying and well into assault and theft. They need to be found and prosecuted.
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so sorry this happened to your sweet son. I HATE bullies!!
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